Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

Steady and Stable

April 13, 2016

I found two more words to add to my vocabulary:

Steady:

firmly fixed, supported, or balanced

Stable:

not likely to fall or give way

Balanced, steady, and stable seem to be interrelated. First there must be balance and then we can be steady which leads to being stable. We’re firmly fixed in place. Our habits, our emotions, our lives.

Today, at 9am, I was still in my pajamas and robe awaiting my clothes getting dried so that I’d have something to wear when I got out of the shower. This is how I was years and years ago and I never thought I’d go back to that place, but here I am at 53 and it seems things have come around in a circle. I’m not sure why that is. But I do know what the imbalance is and I need to move things from one side of the me scale to the other until I achieve a more balanced life.

One key thing I need to practice: self discipline. I have to make up my mind that I am going to do some new things and I’m going to stick to doing those things until I do them every day. And if one way doesn’t work, I’ll come up with a new way until I find what works for me.

I read somewhere recently that women of my mom’s generation (and before her) just did what they were supposed to do. When one woman asked her mom how she managed to take care of a home and raise several children the mom said, “I don’t know. I just did it.” I think that’s what my mom’s attitude was too. I’m going to get back to that. Which leads into what Master Yoda had to say about trying:

“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”

I’m down with that.

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On April 14, 2016 at 12:04 AM, dxprog said:

Several things.
First off: holy shit! My mother just quoted _Yoda_ in a blog post. That's pretty awesome.
Two: steady and stable are indeed interrelated. "Steady" is something you tell a horse to keep them calm, and "stable" is a place that keeps horses. Coincidence? I think not.
Finally, I'm kind of doing the Yoda thing right now, though it's the opposite of steady and stable. I can do that at home all day long, but it certainly doesn't work well towards relationships. So, I've been pushing myself to do things with people or by myself outside of the norm. It's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable as hell, and I miss doing nothing, but I wasn't happy doing that either, so I really have nothing to lose.

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