Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

Stuck In Time

January 4, 2019

It as been 7 years since we got out of debt – 7! And yet I feel like it hasn’t been that long. Why? I think it’s because I mentally hit a reset button every time some crisis happens. As in – have a crisis, stop making progress to deal with crisis, hit reset button and start from where you left off. All of this leads to not moving forward – especially in time. Our family has suffered a lot of different crises over the last 7 years and so there has been a lot of restarting from square one. This is not how it should be, but I’m not sure how to stop either.

I read a book last summer called “Better Than Before” by Gretchen Rubin about habits and she mentioned something called “stopping”. This usually happens after what we perceive is a short lived habit and when we stop – we don’t even feel the urge to maintain what we’ve done and then we’re back at square one. This all sounded familiar and led to my thinking about crisis management in the Oh Crap home – does it apply here? It does.

I also read in another book about how being on auto pilot shortens your life in a way – just going from one thing to another without being there so to speak. Yeah, I’ve done that too and I think that is another way I feel like I have lost time or been stuck in a weird time loop that never moves forward.

So, I need to maintain normal as much as possible during a crisis because if I don’t, I’m going to feel like I’m losing time again. I don’t want that anymore.

Edited to add: I wrote this last August when the problems were starting to mount up. That last line was something I actually did last month with this latest month – I just maintained as much normal as possible through Christmas so that we’d all feel better. It didn’t mean I pretended there was no crisis, it just meant I kept our normal routines and normal celebrations through the crisis wile waiting on getting things fixed. It really helped so I’m glad that’s what I did.

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