Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

Self Help Means Helping Yourself

January 3, 2019

OK – you all know I’m the queen of buying self help books, reading self-help articles, and not really getting anywhere with that. Well, since I’m hibernating I’ve been finding that I look to others for help with my problems. Granted, sometimes we do need that – we need counseling, or medical help, or just a good friend to talk with. However, when you look outside yourself all the time then I think it’s a problem. You’re not tuned in to your own thoughts or desires or whatever. Over the last 3 days I’ve caught myself numerous times thinking, I wonder if there’s a book, article, etc. for that. I’m sure there is, but I realized that I’m always looking outside myself and never to myself. So, every time I catch myself I just say, “no, not going there”. It’s bringing me a measure of peace.

Now, there is one area where I do need help and that is setting boundaries. I’m a mom and mom boundaries can get blurred and sometimes bleed into our kids lives if we aren’t careful. I also set the wrong boundaries up for myself sometimes so that help when I need it doesn’t get through. I keep myself from it. I think this goes right along with reading too many books and not really tuning in to my own intuition if you will and asking myself “what it is I really need right now”. Now, that may sound a bit new agey, but for me it sounds right.

So I’m going to keep turning off that desire to find outside help (except when necessary) and start tuning in to me to see if I can’t solve things myself. And I know the big things that need to be done and I need to do them. That’s enough for me for now.

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January 3, 2019

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