Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

Girlfriend Wanted

October 7, 2018

I think about this often – how I need a friend – but unsure if at 55 it’s really going to happen. I never had many friends throughout my life and the ones I thought were my close friends turned out to have more issues than me. I let go of those toxic relationships, but haven’t found anyone since who I connect with.

Now, all that said, I’m on a first name basis with the ladies at our library, and I talk with the older ladies who cashier in the grocery stores. So, I do get some girlfriend type time in through that. And I think it helps – when I’ve talked with people throughout the week I don’t feel as lonely. Until I need someone I could text or call to commiserate with or talk through a problem. Or just because I’m bored and could we meet up for a coffee or a walk? Those are the kinds of friends I’m missing from my life.

So, today I thought about what I would want in a friend? First off, I want someone who enjoys reading books – real books. I don’t get into ebooks at all. And maybe a beauty guru too because I’m a beauty junkie. Winding down from that but still enjoy it just the same. And someone who can be immature once in awhile – like laughing our butts off in public over something. Because, you gotta stay young somehow right? Someone who also enjoys hanging out in coffee shops and eating good food and the occasional glass of wine.

I want someone who doesn’t just talk about themselves either but we talk and listen to each other. Not trying always to get a word in because the other person shuts you out all the time. Granted, I do have an interruption problem, but I think it comes from years of never being able to get a word in with other people so I feel I have to get it all in instead of listening. I probably should work on that.

I want someone who I can be me with, but not share all the parts of me (or them) because there are some things I just don’t want to share anymore. I don’t want a therapist, I want a friend.

I thought I knew what a friend was, but I don’t think I know. In older shows and movies and books you see relationships but how real and honest are those? I think thirtysomething came closest (of course), but with social media now I don’t think we understand what being a real friend is all about. People older than me do and maybe it’s to them we should look to for answers.

So, there it is – I need a friend. I’ve been praying on that one a lot lately, but it’s a scary proposition. But the older my kids get the less they want to talk with mom because they’re pulling away. So, it’s time to get a girlfriend. If you have any tips let me know!

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October 7, 2018

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