Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

Music Monday

July 11, 2016

Today’s offering is a song from 1982 called Words by Missing Persons. I think this song is even more relevant today than it was back then considering all the “social media” we now have. Back in 1982 there were no cell phones, no Facebook, no Twitter. We had to actually go somewhere with someone and talk with them or we called them on an actual phone plugged in a wall. Ah, those were the days.

There was a commercial called “Rediscover the Lost Art of Getting Together” and it was about someone in a kind of museumand the “exhibits” showed people doing things together way back in the “old days” (you know, like the 80’s or 90’s). Without all the distractions we have now, we usually reached out to others more often. Now, reaching out involves liking someone’s Facebook post.

I’m not saying all technology is bad. I’m saying, we need to be careful how we use it so we don’t put ourselves in a box and never see anyone or tell anyone how we really feel through real and honest conversation.

Anywho, before I start going down a rabbit trail, I’ll just get started on the actual song.

Words by Missing Persons

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care

My lips are moving and the sound’s coming out
The words are audible but I have my doubts
That you realize what has been said
You look at me as if you’re in a daze
It’s like the feeling at the end of the page
When you realize you don’t know what you just read

Yep, I’ve talked with people like that and yes, I’ve done it too. Sometimes the kids ask me if they could do something and apparently I say “yes” and I don’t remember. Ooops. Still, I try to be there. The last few days the kids and I have been having some awesome conversations about things and it has been so rewarding! I know sometimes it’s difficult to listen to some people, but it’s a skill we can all cultivate. It means a lot to the person talking.

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin’ at all

Even truer today than it was back then. Oh, and while I do have a “smart” phone, I barely use it. The computer is still my domain and yes, there are days I’m on it more than I should or I use it to withdraw when stresses get to me. I just need to replace it with something more productive like exercise or maybe cracking out that dusty scrapbooking stuff.

I might as well go up and talk to a wall
’cause all the words are having no effect at all
It’s a funny thing, am I all alone

Yeah, I’ve had those “conversations”. That’s a whole ‘nuther post though.

Something has to happen to change the direction
What filters through is giving you the wrong impression
It’s a sorry state, I say to myself

And this is just it – why am I talking to you if you’re not listening, if you’re not commenting, if you’re not validating?! I was talking with my hair stylist a month ago and in tears over some things going on, and she actually validated everything I had said. No one had done that for me and I felt like I had finally been heard.

I bought a book called “The Relationship Cure” and it is about this very thing – really listening and really talking which equals a real conversation which makes a real relationship. I’ve been a broken record to my kids telling them the same thing – if you want to have a relationship you have to do the work, you have to talk about stuff, you have to listen, you have to act.

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talking at all

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care

Let me get by
Over your dead body
Hope to see you soon
When will I know
Doors three feet wide with no locks open
Walking always backwards in the faces of strangers
Time could be my friend
But it’s less than nowhere now
Less than nowhere now
Less than nowhere now
Now
Ow ow ow

Hmmm, not really sure about this except the “let me get by, over your dead body” which could mean “let me through, I’m done, you don’t care anyway” and leaving. I think the “doors three feet wide with no locks open” might be about people who seem to be open, but really they aren’t. I don’t know. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what someone is trying to say, and sometimes it’s not what you think they’re saying in a song anyway. Let me think about it.

Pursue it further and another thing you’ll find
Not only are they deaf and dumb they could be going blind

No one notices, I think I’ll dye my hair blue

This made me remember a time when I cut my hair. By myself. Don’t ask. The funny thing was, I ran into a friend of mine the day after I did that and she said, “Oh you got your hair cut! It looks great!” I laughed my ass off because it seriously did not look great. I think people do things like that because when words fail to get attention, what’s the next thing you do? Act out. Kids do it and some adults do too because they feel it’s the only way to be heard. And often it doesn’t do any good anyway.

Media overload bombarding you with action
It’s getting near impossible to cause distraction
Someone answer me before I pull out the plug

I don’t watch the news anymore because it does become a distraction – a stressful thing that is hard to deal with. So, pull the plug – on social media, on tv, on radio – whatever it takes to bring you peace again. I’m still trying to move towards an Unplugged Sunday – hopeful I can still make it happen some day. I think it’s also a more serious meaning – feeling like no one is listening and that no one cares. Another reason we need to take the time for those who really need a friend.

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin at all

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin at all

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care
tell me what are words for

So, give the song a listen and if you watch the video (and you’ve never seen it) be forewarned, Dale Bozio, who sings, isn’t wearing much. I always thought of her as the “Bubble Boob” lady. And I think that’s part of the whole feeling of this song as well. And the guys wearing makeup? Um, yeah, we just did that back in the 80’s and it didn’t mean a thing. Just another form of expression or, maybe in this case, part of the performance. Enjoy!

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