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  • Weekend Gallery

    July 24, 2016

    We’re halfway through summer and gearing up for another school year soon.  Hopefully to be followed by cooler fall weather as well.  I can’t really complain though, before last week’s heat wave,  we had almost two weeks of rain almost every morning.  Definitely better than some previous summers we’ve had!  Anyway, I have been snapping away and here’s the fodder from those sessions.

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    First we have some microwave popcorn called Mallow Magic that is supposed to taste like Rice Krispie Treats.  Uh…oookaaay.  I think I’d just rather make the treats.  Although it was intriguing, I didn’t buy it.

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    Continuing in the food vein, here we have three “milks” in various flavors.   I didn’t show these to son #4 because I was afraid he’d actually get these – he did the last time I found some. UGH.

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    Now here’s something that’s actually cool – a sushi set for your Barbie!  No, really – they now have all kinds of little extras like food, cooking utensils, beauty supplies, new accessory sets, and on and on.  Very cool!  I would have loved these back in the day.  No matter where we were on vacation in the States, I always sought out the toy department just to look at the dolls and doll clothes. There used to be a lot of wedding dresses to choose from too, but no more.  I really wish Mattel would bring back a good assortment of those. With all the new goodies and the Barbies in real girl sizes – it’s getting good again.

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    Oh dear God, I can’t believe Sandra Lee still makes things.  Here’s a magazine that you can read from one end to the middle and then flip it around and do the same to see “recipes” of almost 300 cakes.   Don’t even get me started on her cake wrecks.  Sure, I’m not good at it myself, but at least I make my cakes and frosting mostly from scratch.

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    At last – I found a cup that is completely me! Why yes I AM the Frap Queen – every stinkin’ summer.  Bahahahahaha!  I have to say, however, I’ve been going back to Iced Coffees lately and enjoying them again.  The newest one – Iced Coconut Mocha Macchiato (which probably has a thousand calories in it) – is really good.  They’ve been running out of them early in the day this year though so everyone else likes them too.

    And that’s a wrap.  I’ve got plenty more pictures so I’ll be back next week for another edition of Weekend Gallery.

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  • Music Monday

    July 11, 2016

    Today’s offering is a song from 1982 called Words by Missing Persons.  I think this song is even more relevant today than it was back then considering all the “social media” we now have.   Back in 1982 there were no cell phones, no Facebook, no Twitter.  We had to actually go somewhere with someone and talk with them or we called them on an actual phone plugged in a wall.  Ah, those were the days.

    There was a commercial called “Rediscover the Lost Art of Getting Together” and it was about someone in a kind of museumand the “exhibits” showed people doing things together way back in the “old days” (you know, like the 80’s or 90’s).  Without all the distractions we have now, we usually reached out to others more often.  Now, reaching out involves liking someone’s Facebook post.

    I’m not saying all technology is bad.  I’m saying, we need to be careful how we use it so we don’t put ourselves in a box and never see anyone or tell anyone how we really feel through real and honest conversation.

    Anywho, before I start going down a rabbit trail, I’ll just get started on the actual song.

    Words by Missing Persons

    Do you hear me
    Do you care
    Do you hear me
    Do you care

    My lips are moving and the sound’s coming out
    The words are audible but I have my doubts
    That you realize what has been said
    You look at me as if you’re in a daze
    It’s like the feeling at the end of the page
    When you realize you don’t know what you just read

    Yep, I’ve talked with people like that and yes, I’ve done it too.  Sometimes the kids ask me if they could do something and apparently I say “yes” and I don’t remember. Ooops.  Still, I try to be there.  The last few days the kids and I have been having some awesome conversations about things and it has been so rewarding!  I know sometimes it’s difficult to listen to some people, but it’s a skill we can all cultivate.  It means a lot to the person talking.

    What are words for when no one listens anymore
    What are words for when no one listens
    What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin’ at all

    Even truer today than it was back then.  Oh, and while I do have a “smart” phone, I barely use it.  The computer is still my domain and yes, there are days I’m on it more than I should or I use it to withdraw when stresses get to me.  I just need to replace it with something more productive like exercise or maybe cracking out that dusty scrapbooking stuff.

    I might as well go up and talk to a wall
    ’cause all the words are having no effect at all
    It’s a funny thing, am I all alone

    Yeah, I’ve had those “conversations”.  That’s a whole ‘nuther post though.

    Something has to happen to change the direction
    What filters through is giving you the wrong impression
    It’s a sorry state, I say to myself

    And this is just it – why am I talking to you if you’re not listening, if you’re not commenting, if you’re not validating?!  I was talking with my hair stylist a month ago and in tears over some things going on, and she actually validated everything I had said.  No one had done that for me and I felt like I had finally been heard.  

    I bought a book called “The Relationship Cure” and it is about this very thing – really listening and really talking which equals a real conversation which makes a real relationship.  I’ve been a broken record to my kids telling them the same thing – if you want to have a relationship you have to do the work, you have to talk about stuff, you have to listen, you have to act.  

    What are words for when no one listens anymore
    What are words for when no one listens
    What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talking at all

    Do you hear me
    Do you care
    Do you hear me
    Do you care

    Let me get by
    Over your dead body
    Hope to see you soon
    When will I know
    Doors three feet wide with no locks open
    Walking always backwards in the faces of strangers
    Time could be my friend
    But it’s less than nowhere now
    Less than nowhere now
    Less than nowhere now
    Now
    Ow ow ow

    Hmmm, not really sure about this except the “let me get by, over your dead body” which could mean “let me through, I’m done, you don’t care anyway” and leaving.  I think the “doors three feet wide with no locks open” might be about people who seem to be open, but really they aren’t.  I don’t know.  Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what someone is trying to say, and sometimes it’s not what you think they’re saying in a song anyway.  Let me think about it.

    Pursue it further and another thing you’ll find
    Not only are they deaf and dumb they could be going blind 

    No one notices, I think I’ll dye my hair blue

    This made me remember a time when I cut my hair.  By myself.  Don’t ask.  The funny thing was, I ran into a friend of mine the day after I did that and she said, “Oh you got your hair cut!  It looks great!”  I laughed my ass off because it seriously did not look great.  I think people do things like that because when words fail to get attention, what’s the next thing you do? Act out.  Kids do it and some adults do too because they feel it’s the only way to be heard.  And often it doesn’t do any good anyway.

    Media overload bombarding you with action
    It’s getting near impossible to cause distraction
    Someone answer me before I pull out the plug

    I don’t watch the news anymore because it does become a distraction – a stressful thing that is hard to deal with.   So, pull the plug – on social media, on tv, on radio – whatever it takes to bring you peace again.  I’m still trying to move towards an Unplugged Sunday – hopeful I can still make it happen some day.  I think it’s also a more serious meaning – feeling like no one is listening and that no one cares.  Another reason we need to take the time for those who really need a friend.

    What are words for when no one listens anymore
    What are words for when no one listens
    What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin at all

    What are words for when no one listens anymore
    What are words for when no one listens
    What are words for when no one listens it’s no use talkin at all

    Do you hear me
    Do you care
    Do you hear me
    Do you care
    tell me what are words for

    So, give the song a listen and if you watch the video (and you’ve never seen it) be forewarned, Dale Bozio, who sings, isn’t wearing much.  I always thought of her as the “Bubble Boob” lady.  And I think that’s part of the whole feeling of this song as well.  And the guys wearing makeup?  Um, yeah, we just did that back in the 80’s and it didn’t mean a thing.  Just another form of expression or, maybe in this case, part of the performance.  Enjoy!

     

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Hi - welcome to Oh Crap! and if you come back enough times you'll soon find out why I named my blog that.

I am an unperfect mom to 8 great kids: 5 boys and 3 girls (and I had them in that order too).

I have been married for either 40 really long or really short years depending on how my day is going.

Even though I have homeschooled my children for the last 31 years, I am certainly no supermom - unless you count the days I have to rescue my daughters from a moth in their room.

I love coffee, chocolate, and music from the 80's. I enjoy reading books, chick flicks, and thirtysomething.

So, that's me in a nutshell (and I'm probably more of a nut than you know). Thank you for visiting me on my blog!

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