Oh Crap! – Musings of an Unperfect Mommy

thirtysomething – episodes 4 and 5

October 9, 2010

Before I start with today’s discussion, I do want to point out the Fisher Price high chair that Janey uses. We had that exact high chair when Matt was a baby and I don’t think we got a new one until Steve came along. I loved that high chair and missed it each time we had a new baby – the newer ones just weren’t the same or as easy to use. At the time I think it was the latest and greatest to have but without a horribly steep price tag. I bought mine by saving up points on the Pampers boxes – yes, Pampers use to come in boxes people. I also wanted that mobile – the one that hung over Janey’s changing table. Very simple and so cute. *sigh* Okay, on with the show.

Episode 4 – Couples – I was thinking a lot about this one because it shows an argument from the perspectives of the four people that are involved. I always try to see which one is the “real” one, but I finally realized – there isn’t one. They are all correct because each person sees it filtered through their eyes and feelings and none is wrong. Another thing I can see now is that everyone saw Nancy’s little cheer as fun, flirty, and saw her as a beautiful, capable woman. However, she doesn’t see herself that way. She saw herself as clumsy and maybe a little out of Hope’s circle because she has already been taking care of kids for awhile and being a stay at home for five years. She hasn’t had time for herself, to do the things she’d like to do. So, when she asks Elliot what he thinks of her illustrating books he just blows her off as if it was just some passing fancy instead of the desire that it is. I can relate to so much of that. I have been a stay at home, homeschooling mom for a really long time. All the things I wanted to do went by the wayside and I figured I’d take them up when the time came. I can also relate to how Nancy sees herself – I see myself that way too.

I thought it was funny that Hope was griping at Michael about picking stuff up and couldn’t really define what she wanted from him until the day of Brittany’s birthday party. She said, “I just want you to help out more around here”. Michael couldn’t believe it – that’s all?? Why couldn’t she just say that instead of beating around the bush the way, I think, we woman usually do. Hehehe.

Episode 5 – But Not For Me – This is both a sad and funny episode. Hope realizes that she needs to be romanced by her husband. She goes around with spit up on her shirts, taking care of a baby who she cannot have a meaningful conversation with and wants to rekindle what they had. I think she is wise – once children start coming along marriages often suffer. You need to make time for the other person. You need to keep talking and doing things together in whatever ways you can. But, I digress.

Hope and Michael’s date is a complete disaster starting with the fiasco at the restaurant to the car dying on them after the movie. That was funny but so very real. What we daydream about never happens that way does it? In the end, they find a way to have their Saturday night – at home ;-).

Melissa getting ready for her date for Saturday night was heart wrenching to watch. She always tries so hard and always ends up with her hopes dashed. Maybe if she just let things happen naturally instead of expecting so much all the time she would have been happier. I think in the end, she started learning this. Hmm, maybe this episode has the background of expectations?

Gary – oh yeah, what a jerk. At least he apologizes to Melissa where the other jerk didn’t. Obviously he is scared of committment and hasn’t taken the time to really know what he wants. He still wants to play, yet, underneath, I think he always wanted more. Maybe. Those types are always harder to figure out.

Well, I think that sums it up for this time. Oh, and I changed my mind about my choice of snack – it’s beer and chips instead of chocolate. It somehow seems more appropriate. I’m already looking forward to talkng about the Thanksgiving episode next week – so, so funny. I think it’s one of my favorites. Remember – be sure to comment if you have something to add!

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October 9, 2010

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